Dixie, Could you just wait and do nothing for a while longer. Give them a chance to work it out. I know you want to help your grandson and that is a good thing. Has your daughter-in-law requested help from you. Because if she hasn't and you start giving her money, she might eventually start to resent you. If you are doing it so that they will get back together and they don't, then you might start resenting her. Look up Karpmann Drama Triangle and read it and see if this situation might fit into that. Really interesting reading how we sometimes want to play the role of rescuer and than it comes back to bite us in the butt. There are other ways to help besides handing her money. Take them out to dinner and a movie, take your grandson shopping for some school stuff. Offer to buy some groceries, etc. If you give money, you need to have no expectations how it will be used or what will be the outcome. Hugs, Marle