thank you , thank you for this post. I have been strong on not enabling my son for over nine weeks and i was feeling very guilty and sad today. He is doing well and seems to be working the program from what I've heard from others. For some reason I just was feeling sorry for what he was experiencing. I have not contacted him or sent money during all of this. I figure when he is ready to make amends then maybe he will think of me......hugs, dixie