I'm so sorry susan. I've been reading this thread for a few days and it seems you are being very strong. I know you are angry and I have been there too. Sometimes my anger would consume me in a negative way, but other times I had to rely on it to get through the toughest days.
I'm surprised your AD didn't come running when you took the car. I'd expect she'll be calling soon. Remember nothing says you have to answer....my AH always seemed to respond BETTER when I refused to speak to him, which didn't happen very often.
As far as the police woman, yes there are times the police are just very unhelpful and working with them can be an uphill battle if you get a cynical officer. Do report it, they are there to protect and assist us, not to make us feel like we are idiots.
Hugs...