Mike Mass has a link to the orange papers which is a criticism and analysis of AA that may interest you.
It validated a few of my feelings and thoughts about it.
It is in a thread in alcoholism started by Tom talking about our society and instant gratification.
I tried al-anon and also went along as support with my ex to AA. Al-anon and I just didn't click and I think my understanding of what was taught and suggest made me worse in the situation.
In the Big Book, women are help-mates. Written a long time ago in a very patriachal society.