Welcome Shawmac!
What you seem to be saying is that it's AA's fault that you can't stop relapsing? If I were you I'd give it a wide berth then. As they say, simply cast it from your mind. Obssessing about it and building up resentments will do you no good in your search for a life of recovery. Maybe you could have a bash at Rational Recovery?
Lots of alternatives on offer!