my ah used to do this to me ....
he would always be shocked when I refused to do what he wanted me to do and then stood my ground .
Just like you going to church with them .. if I told ah I wasnt going , he wouldnt have believed me , he would then tell me I WAS going , but I would tell him no again . He wouldnt actually believe me until he got into the car without me and drove away ..
He just was not / is not used to me standing up for myself .. sounds like your ah isnt either ... I say we both keep standing !! LOL