I agree-do not pick him up!!!!! You will hurt yourself and your emotions. I think we will always feel bad for the addicts in our lives, wanting to do more but realizing the best thing to do is nothing. Hardest thing I have ever done-just learning. After amini-strokes-a small heart attack-gots to take care of me. You need to take care of YOU first. They have their friends-let their friends do it. Prayers for you.