cail, I am so so sorry for your pain. Please remember this isn't about you or directed toward you. It is the drugs. You can use this as an opportunity to stick to your boundries, and see how far you've come. It is a good thing to not wnt to fix everything for her. I know you love her with all your heart, but are just too frustrated to feel the love right now. This sounds like alot of what my daughter has gone through. She once took a chip che truley didn't earn. One of the hardest things she had to do was to share with the group later that she truley didn't earn it. That was a big step. She din't realize how obvious it was to most people there that she was still using, she was knodding off ect. But they reached out to her when she admited what she had done. Tonight she just honestly recieved her 90 day chip. I hope that your daughter will soon find her way as well. Please don't be afraid to come here & vent. Alot of us have been there done that. We are here beside you on this journey.