Susan, Your daughter most likely already hates herself for what she is doing. Can you imagine someone who feels good about themselves doing the things an addict does. I have used this analogy before about cigarette smoking but it is even more personal to me now because I am struggling with quitting. I am telling myself things like one won't hurt. If my thoughts were spoken, I probably sound just like an addict ready to relapse. It is hard and once she got out of rehab, it became harder. Not a reason to forget your boundaries but maybe a reason to go easy on yourself. Hugs, Marle