That's sort of what happened to Shank and I too. I worked my program and got stronger and more independent with each step. He remained the same.........clean or using, he remained the same. Then expected us to just pick up where we left off. Left off where?? So much had happened there was no just picking back up. It would have been different if there had been maybe 1 small incident, but there wasn't. There had been many big incidents and that's just too big of a hump to get over..........too much to think about and worry about all the time. The trust was completely gone. IMO.........once the trust is gone, that's it. You'll drive yourself insane for the rest of your life or until you feel comfortable to trust again. Even then I'd be afraid. God bless those who can stay, but for me...........no thanks.