Originally Posted by
teke 
you know what, he says that he wants me but i need to change but he's gonna be him,........... and i'm thinking about this nonsense like i might be able to make some sense out of it. what i need to do is just stop allowing him to be in contact with me for a while.
he's concerned about me getting childsupport and not wanting to have anything to do with him once it starts coming. i'm beginning to think that he tries to uses his money as a means to control.
You see, they prey when they know that you're weak and confused and have alot going on and alot on your mind. They get you into that thought process that when they know that you're at a point where there's some desperation in your life, and then they start talking this way. I know with xabf it was like he would want until I was already at a point where I felt sick, was losing my mind over everything that was going on, and then he'd start talking to me about some nonsense. You almost start to feel like you're being brainwashed because they push and push and push until your thoughts are no longer your own, and you're making decisions that you'd normally have better judgment about and then you snap out of it, and you're like.... why in the h*ll would I agree to that!?!? There's no real reason that you need to talk to him at this moment, and I would put a boundary in place that you're only willing to talk about things that are specific to kids (or whatever)!