Oh TG, my heart goes out to you. I remember well that strong and oh, so raw emotional duress! I remember the anger, the everything.
You have been extremely nice throughout this divorce. He, of course, will continue to play his sympathy card - trying to be nice - and claiming to need you and need you as his friend. Doing all the things that you always wanted and needed him to do before, using it as his last pawn (desperate move) in this game that he plays.
Be strong, don't let him wear you down. You know the truth. And what you are going through now is just a normal phase of growth. Hang in there. And vent all you want too, many of us truly understand.
(((TG)))