Has This Happened To You?
My ABF has been sober about six months. He has been 13 stepping for awhile but is still sober. He still is financially irresponsible and basically exhibiting all the behavior of a dry drunk. I'm working my program and I am growing weary of our old routine. I pay most of the bills, clean, carry the relationship, etc.
We made plans this weekend to do something and he was invited to go to a friend's party. I assumed we would go...he said not it's too much of a hassle. So basically if I want to go, he is not going. If I don't want to go, he will go.
This really bums me out. I really want out of the relationship and struggle to find the strength to end it. My rational mind says I can do it, my heart keeps thinking it will get better. How long did it take for all of you to make the break? Or get better.
I am starting to feel physically ill from all of this. I love the guy...but what an ass.