Mlynn,
I can relate to your post. What I "hear" is a child who didn't feel safe growing up.
What I do when my "inner child" starts making noises like, "I'm not good enough, something bads going to happen....." Is to remind her, outloud if necessary that I'm an adult now, that I'm here to take care of things for her (things that maybe didn't get taken care of in the past) and that she (my inner child) doesn't need to take desperate steps to get my attention. I'm here and I love us both.
It sounds lame but it works for me.
Take Care of You!
Easeful