Old 07-17-2007, 04:52 PM
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BigSis
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(((DW)))) My apologies, it was me who suggested the part-time job.

The above conversation is good - you are getting lots of experience from others who have already walked this road.

What I know is true for me is that nothing I said, no words, no twist of a sentence, no tone of voice, no look on my face... not one thing, could get my addicted loved ones to 1. hear my side of things or 2. understand why I was doing what I needed to do or 3. tell me it was ok to continue with my boundaries.

Every contact turned out to be another opportunity to 1. wheedle 2. deny and 3. manipulate.... on both our parts.

But if this is what you want - why not do it? There is no legal reason not to contact your husband - your attorney is only trying to protect you, and if you no longer want that protection, you are not "bound" to it.

Just pick up the phone and have the conversation... no one here can accurately predict how it will turn out - only how it worked for each of us.

(((DW)))
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