Hello DW,
Honey, we are not here to tell you what to do....we are here to offer you guidance and support.....we are here for you to read and learn about addiction and what it has done to our lives......it is entirely up to you whether you go or stay......and I know at times it must seem that we are all ganging up on you.....from this post I can read that you are still in denial.......it is full of if's. if' he gets off drugs, if he gets therapy, if he does the evaluation, if he gets clean, if he stays clean....you are still basing your and your children's future on your desires, expectations and not the facts.....you know the answers to your questions and it is your choice......my only suggestion is you either accept the alcoholic/addict for who they are, or you leave the relationship. You either accept their addiction, lying, fooling around, irresponsibility, abusiveness, and multitude of other unacceptable behaviors or you leave the relationship.......the choice is yours.....
Peace