Thank you Inthis, i know your right, everyone's so right but getting i my thick head. To be completely honest, it's not even so much him, it's the thought if he gets back with his X is what is TEARING me up inside. I know i shouldn't be wasting my time and energy on "her" if there is something going on but i'm going crazy. I was just out at lunch and got teared up once again. Why can't i take the info i do have, he took a break with me, snuck away with his ex and then denied anything going on and hopes to talk soon.....why can't i get mad for longer than 2 seconds......i read all these people that get so much better, i'm a lost cause in the getting better department i feel