From my experience on Heroin. . .or any drug for that matter after a while there is not any use . . . my dope was my lover, my best friend etc. . . .
I also know that there is a time after coming off of stuff alcohol included, that things sometimes take a while to return to somewhat normal.
I wish I had some other wise words here, a very dear friend of mine that I grew up with, grew on up to be a PHD, and is sex therapist. I called her one or two times to ask a few questions and she told me it would not be ethical for her to "counsel" with me since we were such good friends. Point is. . .I know they are out there and they have loads of good info and can help all kinds of situations! Might give it a try live
I'm putting off getting this "paying" work done and I hate that I can be such a HUGE procrastinator! But. . .little by little I'll get there. The screaming at the top of her lungs 3 yr old is taking a nap still, late I know. . .but we take what we can get around here!!!