Talk about not a pretty site -
I have a friend in recovery - that worked at the treatment center that my AH went to - of course I wasn't going to any "program" at the time so I had the typical ANGRY family look - She said that her co-workers and her would hate to have to talk to me when I brought him clothes & stuff - they were like "you wait on her, I helped her last time"
Then she saw me about 8 months later & I had been attending Al-Anon meetings for about 3 months - she swears she did not recognize me - I looked that much like a different person!!
Guess what - I'm her Al-Anon sponsor - go figure???
Had to be a HP thing!!