I realize its sorta been forgotten, but what about the violence that brought on your rushing for a restraining order in the first place. The violence and anger you children witnessed and one child tried to protect you from?
For me and my AH its not about the drugs anymore, the problem is what the kids have been subjected to in a place they should have felt safe, that doesnt stop just ebcuase the substances might or might not.
For me I allowed my kids to be exposed to too much and now all I can do is try to work forward and be sure that never happens in our home again