Welcome to a great group of people who have helped me deal with my son's addiction to pot, alcohol, etc. If pot is so harmless,why are their lives in such chaos? Sounds like you are tired of the chaos, and need to start focusing on yourself instead of them. That's the thing about addicts, they take all of our energy and then we have none left for our own lives. Start reading on this site and a great book Codependent No More. It has helped me begin to unravel myself from my addict.
krhea