Ray i have seen the type while locked up that just complain about visits, phone calls, writing, etc. what i have learned , because i went through all this, was that that is usually how people act when they really havent faced the real reason that they put themself in there and have to pay the price themself.( even thought we know alot of others pay along with them) i have never gotten many visits at all, but i do get mail from my mom(mostly all from SR) and i dont really call anyone but her. its a lack of gratitude, and wanting others to feel sorry for you . like dakota said a control thing. iam just so glad that i grew through that.to me it is just a display of selfcenteredness, that can only be worked on by folling some type of recovery program, 12 step/religion etc. i will keep you and him in your prayers. i am nervous about getting out also, but we will both work through it with the guidance of our higher power that i call GOD!