2 Years Later
Two years today I tossed my exAH to the curb, together 4 1/2 years.married 1 1/2. The divorce was final in April. Reading some of these posts, I was very fortunate. I had no clue my exAH was into drugs...he would start an argument, disappear for the night, and come home in the morning telling me he was gambling at the local casino all night...naive me, I believed every word. He also worked out of town a lot with money missing and a good story, etc.
The best thing he did for me was disappear for 5 days and admit he was doing crack..also found evidence in his truck there was another woman with him. I gave him one more chance and took that opportunity to make sure I was not on any of his credit cards (got letters from the creditors to that effect), opened a separate bank account, etc.The creditors hounded me for the first year (because I have good credit) but were unable to prove I was involved in any of his debt.
After I kicked him out, he went on a 1 year binge with a 18-year old crack wh***(he was 55 at the time), ran up $100,000 in debt with credit cards, and many more details. His 73-year old mother rescued him from the streets (she's also a liar and manipulator) and I haven't heard from him since last Christmas...he called when my family was at dinner and I told him "May God help you".
I cannot believe how much peace I have found away from the chaos. My lesson to all of you is to CYA...yiour ABF/AH's problem could escalate and you could find yourself in big financial trouble. I have dated a few times and ran...they all seemed so needy!!
This site saved my life. I was so devastated that I could be so stupid!! I am a mature adult with a college degree and I was taken iin and didn't see what was going on for SOOO long! I bless all of you for your help and compassion when I was a basket case. I do lurk but don't post much because I want to tell so many people to RUN...the odds of your situation getting better are so slim.
Again, thank you for helping me through my really tough time.
Hugs,
Susie