Drained,
As this group taught me a few months ago, you have to let go and move on. I kept wanting to "make" or "help" my agf change. Althought I was there for her the hole time helping her take care of her self. In reality I was allowing her to use and use more. If by som chance his lawyer would tell him what you really said, all it would do is give him the tools to mess with your head more. Now he would have all the right things to say to you. And in the end it will hurt more if he doesn't change. He already knows what you want. Now turn your back and walk away. If it is the same thing that he wants he will follow you, and when you 2 meet up again he would have made those changes already. Do not try to help him make the changes, it will consume you. It hurts to walk away, but it hurts more to be walked on.