Just a little side note...It talks in the Big Book about the "actor" it describes how sometimes he is kind and considerate, sometimes not, but it is always to get what they want. Until any kind of recovery occurs assume at all times that his "tactics" because that is what they are, ..are to get what he wants. Whatever that may be. Wouldnt it be grand to think that the nice comments were sincere and the nasty not, but unfortunately, they are all just to set a stage for the actor.
Good Luck, I have been where you are. Stay strong girl.
Leah