Good advice ahead of me...I think it all comes down to acting as if the only person "taking care" of you and the kids is you. Your attorney has been doing a great job of trying to protect your interests, but if everything is in a joint account, there may be no interest left to protect. The lure of drugs will win over every time and money is a huge trigger to spend spend spend on drugs. I would get my own account immediately and switch my work direct deposit to that account. Everything else, well pick and choose what works for you, but in active addiction, it is so easy to go from comfortable to destitute in a very short time.