Take some money out of your joint account and open an account in your name only. Deposit your check in that account. Do not put another dime in the joint account.
Do you have any investments that are held jointly? If so, take 1/2 out and deposit the money in your checking account. Don't let the money sit there, it will be gone.
Get pro-active about your finances, worrying is not going to do a darn thing, action is the watch word.
Your attorney will interpet the law, the business of your life is yours alone to manage.
Look at yourself as a business, what will you do to protect the assets of the business so that it can thrive and grow.
Each man for himself, this is war, that is the approach your husband is using, so must you.
My Dad always says: "Be like a fighter the ring, fight fair, but protect yourself at all times".