BTW; like someone else mentioned,don't start "defending yourself" about this! That way it turns around to being about YOU and what you do "wrong",how you are the "reason" for his problems,quack,quack,quack.... NOT!
I'd say let him go off and sulk (aka...drink and whine about how "you made him"). He just is using this as another excuse to drink,I'll bet you! Oh,well....if it wasn't this,it would be something else (in his mind!)
This is apples and oranges.............no discussion necessary.
Hope you enjoy a quiet day without him and his nonsense!
p.s. Thanks for sharing this....it is easier to see the ISMS/manipulation in someone else's situation; not quite as easy when my own emotions are involved. These examples are helpful for me to ID it easier when it happens in my own life.........and it does and will again in the future.