(((((Cherryberry))))) you did absolutely nothing wrong. In fact you were being very very responsible.
And yes that is mental and emotional ABUSE.
The next time he starts one of those rants, just picture A BIG WHITE DUCK WITH AN ORANGE BILL, like the ducks in the AFLAC commercials, and the duck is saying:
QUACK QUACK QUACK QUACK
Because that is what he is doing QUACKING. LMAO
If you can get in the habit of picturing the duck it will help tremendously.
As you continue to grow and change and practice 'detachment' his quacking will get worse. His verbal abuse may turn physical. Please get a plan in place to leave in a hurrry if you have to. Keep a bag packed in your trunk, with important papers, credit and debit cards, etc JUST IN CASE
Again, you acted responsibility. YOU WERE THE ADULT!!!!!!!!
J M H O
Love and hugs,