hi lake,
it is hard enought to get clean.....why give him any more things to hamper his chances for success? Let him focus on what he needs to do..........clean himself up! Why creat any more problems? And as you said he didn't sound that great so how can you expect him to use sound judgement? Why give him the tool to get even more in trouble? I think this....no means no and you do not have to explain yuorself anymore than that......just my opinion....dixie