See, the 12 steps are a way of life. They have multiple applications.
So little of the 12 step application I use daily has to do with addiction anymore...But I can't imagine not having the program and still moving forward in a serene and content manner.
I understand your feelings...I too miss having kids in the house. But I also enjoy the new things I have been discovering and the hobbies and past times I put aside to raise my girls that i can now redevote energy to. Hugs