Peapod, don't feel ashamed. Any one could be a third person. We all have real problems and none of us here are perfect
Hey if it makes you feel any better, I was one long ago. Does it matter now? No. Did I know it was wrong? Yes. Did I learn from it now? Yes, and that is the main thing. I am glad you are posting and trying to re-organize your life. Bieng a codie is a pretty hard thing to shake, "I Know" but day by day is all we can do. There are some really good books out there by Melodie Beatie. I highly recomend her ( if you haven't bought some already.) keep posting. There is far more here about "codie" issues that I have found anywere else, and the best part is a whole bunch of great people on this site.