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Old 06-23-2007, 06:16 AM
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Originally Posted by peapods View Post
Lastly, I would like to apologize for any woman/man out there who has been hurt by a "third party" - I am the "third party" and I hate myself every day for being who I am.
Peapod, maybe your lack of self-esteem is part of your problem (as it is with most of us and most certainly me).

No need to hate yourself, you're not a bad person you are a sick person, a codependent who has made bad choices. Codependents make bad choices a lot.

Maybe take time to brush yourself off, and keep yourself so occupied in your own recovery that you will find it easier not to obsess about him.

Make a plan, that helps. Maybe go to a meeting, buy "Codependent No More" by Melody Beattie because it's a book that tells us all about us and why we are how we are...most of us swear by it.

Take a walk, have a summer picnic with your family, find a hobby and throw yourself into it, maybe just take some quiet time all for you.

Hope it gets better soon, you seem to see clearly the direction that will help you most.

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