I don't have an answere Gwen, but I do want to say that I have taken my granddaughter to see her father. SHe is almost 2 and he has never touched or held her. The last time he even got to see her was a year ago. He moved to a facility too far away. Now, he has moved about an hour away. We are awaiting visitation approval. This facility has visitation face to face. It will be a wonderful day too because for the first time he will be able to hold and love his only child.
Do your children know where you will be spending weekends? If they do, are they ok with visiting?
I know you love them. You'll make a decision that you're comfortable with Gwen.
Take care.