Hi DW and (((Hugs))) to you!
sounds like Husband is quacking again.. and addicts do a lot of that.
One thing in your post that stood out to me.. "..it doesn't make sense.."
Addicts can ratinalize ANYTHING and often their rationalizations do NOT make sense.
BTW if he wanted to be there for the kids like he says, he would be working recovery.
Hang in and, yes, we do care.