Kanga,
I, too, can relate to the anger coming back. For me, it takes a daily (sometimes hourly) contact with my HP to keep my focus on me and what is right for me.
As I continue to grow in recovery, the anger is not as bad, but the automatic distrust of anyone with a "drink" in their hand is something that I have not been able to lessen. I know many people that are able to drink on what people call a normal level, have a glass of wine with a meal, a beer at a party, and never have any of the symptoms of the disease. But the moment I see that drink in a persons' hand, it is a trigger for me for distrust - Even though they may not deserve that distrust in any way, shape or form.
Another area me & my HP will keep working on.
Rita