I hope things begin to settle for you soon DW.
The stress, and analyzing and contemplating and planning can be harmful to your health. Does it really matter what he "says" anymore?
Why not leave the details to him for a while? He has to do the work, let him figure out what that means. And until work is done, nothing has really changed, right?
In the meantime, how are YOU doing these days?
(((Hugs)))
Cece