((((DW)))
As a mom of an addict I can say that back in the day I would have done exactly the same thing with little regard to how it affected you. If there were a snowballs chance that it would "solve" everythibg, I was willing to take it.
What I didn't know is that what I would be asking could actually get in the way of him finding recovery.
For a Mom that thought I would do ANYTHING to stop him, here I was wishing things that might prevent things from getting better. I had no idea.
If you can't bring yourself to not answers the calls, stick to your guns, in as kind a way as possible.
What you are doing is perhaps the MOST loving thing you can do...leave him to his own resources to make healthy decisions regarding his life. As long as Mom, dad, wife, etc prevent this, he will continue to deny...wouldn't you?
Hang in there DW...you're doing great
((((Hugs))))
Cece