The above have pretty much said it = DETACH, DETACH, DETACH. I am fairly new to this forum but have been dealing with my addict husband for well over the 3 years we've been married and it took me years before I figured out that you will make yourself crazy searching for the evidence and being suspicious and yelling and preaching.. it will do you no good. For your own sanity read the stickys and keep on coming here bcs we are all linked bcs of this disease and you will be able to relate and get the support you need. I wish I had come here years ago. GOOD LUCK