doctors wife - Welcome! I did not know about detachment when I was with my xagf. I found SR and after reading a TON and her final screw you to me situation...I ended the relationship which as you will find can be a whole diffrent issue in itself. So I cannot offer detachment advice but I can say its worth a try until you want to try something more. Make yourself at home and remember every case of addiction is unique but they are all pretty much the same thing. I hope you keep coming back and continue to find things to help you along. It will all be ok with some time and some work on his part and yours...if he does not want to work at it, then it takes you working on you. Again, welcome aboard.