Originally Posted by
drainedwife 
as i am writing this i am thinking to myself i really have a deep rooted problem..i cannot let go... i just cant...i cant start only thinking of myself and my kids....how do undo your thinking??? meetings, therapy??? keep reading co-dependant no more???
Well, I understand the not being able to let go thing. It is very hard. It took us all a long time to learn to be the way we are and to do things the way we do and it takes a while to learn how to re-evaluate and adjust to looking at things a different way, and then reacting a new way.
All of those things you listed would be very good things to do.
Reading the book you mentioned helped me LOTS!!!!