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Old 06-14-2007, 11:51 AM
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A very good thing for all of us to learn how to say (and mean) whether or not we're dealing with an addict is:

"I'm sorry, I love you but I'm not comfortable doing that."

Most of us are IN the troubles we're in because we were never taught that it's okay to say those words.

In this case, it's not only true but it's a great opportunity for you to practice your boundaries in a safe way. He's in rehab...if he gets upset, then he's in the right place with people who can help him work through it in a healthy way.

You've got to take care of YOU and the baby first. He comes second. If you cannot do this when he's safely away in rehab, how will you handle it when he comes home and makes demands that are much worse than this? Now is the time to practice, and get good at it.

Just my opinion.

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