Originally Posted by
drainedwife 
and then it would escalte and about 6 times he has grabbed me, or put his hands around my neck, (not choking). this past time was when my daughter was present and starting hitting him to let go of mommy. now,
You're still defending him. He put his hands around your neck.......not choking?? I'm sorry but the moment he even put his hands on you that was abuse........and in front of your daughter..............What's wrong with that picture?