addiction is a progressive and the longer the use, the more the distruction. most addicts don't look like addicts in the beginning stages. if i had to make a suggestion, it would be to protect your finances and any valuable. my ah had been addicted since he was 12, he say, and i married him not knowing. looks are decieving, addict come in all shades and all backgrounds. it does get worse, so try to be prepared. have you read "what addicts do", located at the top of the forum page?