Seems to be a bit of awfulising going on and lots of what ifs.
If we don't do anything wrong, we don't go to jail. If bad things happen to someone in jail, how is that your fault? He's the one who takes the action that lands him there - not you. If you don't want to follow through on the order then maybe you don't really want or need it and it is a ploy to get something else you still want. I do that stuff.
Seriously - I have been in a similar situation and I tried to keep it all together and please everyone. You have two choices.
1. Protect the feelings of your in laws and keep the family pride in tact or
2. Protect your children and yourself from harm and anger and abuse
Doing choice one will lead to a sort of insanity because you will be going against the strongest instinct a human can have - protecting their children.
Sorry if this seems a bit blunt.
I know how you feel so here's a hug.
