Old 06-09-2007, 07:49 AM
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Cynay
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Steve.... this is only my view... but

I dont think Jealousy is counter productive.... I dont think Anger is either.

If you looking into the stages of grief you can not heal without anger.... IMHO jealousy is just a primal emotion that is like a gut feeling... like Fear is primal... when the hair on the back of your neck stands up... you might want to pay attention.

If Im feeling jealous I need to look at why the feeling is there.... for me there is usually a really good reason (Im not a usually a jealous person) and I need to pay attention to that emotion... just like I do with Fear and Anger.

When my ex-abf entered treatment I was jumping for joy.... till I found out that the road in early recovery was much harder then the end of his drinking career.... he also did the 13th step because "I did not understand him like the fellowship could" yea frigging right! When someone cheats... I dont give a diddly squat if they use recovery as a reason.... It still hurts, still wrong and still a deal breaker.... end of story.
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