When your truly ready to let go you will. There'll come a time when you can think of nothing else.
Like Blues said you wake up one night, hes gone and all of a sudden you realize your okay with it and you no longer care what hes doing.
Then for me there was days Id wish hed go MIA and give me a break. My AH and I are separated. I still love him, a huge part of me hopes he gets it together and I get me together and still dreams of the happily ever after, but today Im not holding on to it, little by little it gets easier