Originally Posted by
drainedwife 
and i guess that is a flaw in my charachter and may have to do with low self esteem...
Or it could just be that of a kind loving person being a good wife.
Yes look over the reasons why you may have done things or not done things...sometimes the answer is...because it was the right thing to do.
If you find any other answer then you will know areas you may want to look into finding solutions. Doing right when all around you is doing wrong is still doing right.