In the beginning, I had to see a lawyer...my husband was in so much trouble, I was so distraught, in no shape to make any decisions. The lawyer I had knew the shape I was in, plus every time I went to see the lawyer, my sister or friend came with me.
The lawyer tried to get me to go on with a divorce, but I just could not make the decision,,,so what she suggested....lets maybe word it this way...At This Time I See no Hope of Reconciliation....that felt better for me to be able to continue on to do what had to be done to save what was left....
Only in due time was I ready to file for divorce....it didn't matter who or what anyone said or told me, I made the choice when I knew that is what I wanted...
I am sure some coud have hit with a frying pan many times, but only you know inside when the time is right.
Might be something you could ask your lawyer....At This Time!
Rose