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Old 06-06-2007, 05:14 PM
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Guinevere
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Originally Posted by cece1960 View Post
Then I had to remind myself often that "I" was just as entitled to happiness as my kids were. I was someone's child too...and my life was important, not just as a mom, but as a person.
And the only way to allow for that happiness was to step back and let him find his own way.
So I laid down what I would accept in MY life, rather than stating what he needed to do in his.
It worked for me...with some weak episodes in between
I wish you well in your counseling
((((Hugs))))
Cece
Thank you for your words of wisdom. I am amazed at the helpful responses members of SR have to offer. My family is in the infant stages of discussion about setting necessary boundaries. I appreciate your comments about my having to set my own boundaries. My boundaries are about what is acceptable to me. I even feel wishy-washy about what I want to set as my boundaries. (Is that crazy?)

I especially liked the reminder that I am someone's child too. I doubt my 96 year old mom would want her daughter to suffer from drug-induced codependency.

I have experience with many weak episodes!

(((Cece)))
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